S2 E3 When Grief Hits Home

At some point in our journey of doing good, we will probably experience grief. It can manifest itself in so many different ways such as shock or disbelief, denial, guilt anger and even depression.

Join Rob and Ken as they share and reflect on their experiences of grief and how grieving with others can be a powerful and transformative experience in doing good.

In this conversation, Rob mentions Dorothee Sölle, a German liberation theologian who wrote about the three phases of grieving when responding compassionately to a world in pain which she expounds in her book, Suffering.

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Rumors of Doing Good: S2 E3 When Grief Hits Home

S2 E2 Bill & Eve Perry – Hippies Running a Community Cafe

In today’s conversation Rob and Ken are joined by Bill and Eve Perry who were running a bustling fruit and veg shop in the heart of the East End of London, England when they felt a divine nudge to close down the shop in 1995 and open a community space called The Garden Cafe.

The cafe aims to bring the local community together and improve quality of life for folks who live nearby through providing delicious meals and running community projects with a particular emphasis on young people and those with learning difficulties as well as mental health issues.

Listen in as Bill and Eve share their remarkable journey of running a vibrant cafe as they sought to live out the values of Jesus in their local community.

Bill was born into the bombsites and debris of East London’s Docklands, with it working class slums but at the same time into a vibrant community. “I was always aware that my life was a journey, a journey towards the light, and ‘something other’.”

Meanwhile Eve comes from Melbourne Australia. Married at 18 to a merchant seaman from eat London, Eve left Australia the next year to sail to London to meet his family, with every intention of returning to Australia after a couple of years.

However, that all changed in September 1978.

Looking back on events at that time, “…we now realise that we were brought together for a reason, to share in a journey that would continue for the rest of our lives.”

“We were chosen, not because we were anything special, but then again we were not ordinary either. In the eyes of the world, just a couple of crazy unimportant hippies, yet God chose us to be a part of a power expression of ‘The Kingdom of God’ on earth. We were to build a place of ‘Spirituality’ and ‘Belonging’, where all would find a home and find The ‘Christ’ within themselves, and each other.

These days Bill and Eve have retired and find themselves being still, knowing God listening and waiting patiently for what’s next.

The Garden Cafe is still up and running today serving meals Mondays-Fridays from 9am-3.30pm at 5 Cundy Rd, London E16 3DJ, UK.

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Rumors of Doing Good: S2 E2 Bill & Eve Perry – Hippies Running a Community Cafe

S2 E1 Becoming a Spectator

Join Ken and Rob  as they kick off season two of Rumors of Doing Good talking about becoming curious instead of imposing their own rules when engaging different cultures as well as their experiences of engaging and respecting the cultural norms of folks who live outdoors as well as the anarchist community in their adventures of doing good.

Cultural norms are the guidelines by which one lives. They are the common expectations, standards and rules that people in a social group follow to influence their behavior. Growing up in a particular culture, cultural standards are frequently learnt and reinforced via parents, friends, teachers and others.

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Rumors of Doing Good: S2 E1 Becoming a Spectator

S1 E13 I Wasn’t Expecting That!?!

Have you ever found yourself on the receiving end of doing good? What happened and how did it make you feel?

Often times when we seek to do good in the communities that we are part of, we can get caught up thinking that we are the ones doing the good. But what about the times when we unexpectedly find ourselves on the receiving end from those we are journeying with?

Join Ken and Rob in this final conversation of season one of Rumors of Doing Good as they share their experiences of being surprised when the tables have turned in their journeys with folks who live outdoors as well as punks, squatters and the activist community.

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Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E13 I Wasn’t Expecting That!?!

S1 E12 Blessi Kumar – Making Space for Folks with Tuberculosis in the Developing World

In today’s conversation Rob & Ken are joined by Blessi Kumar, a health activist from New Delhi, India. For the past ten years, Blessi has been passionately advocating on behalf of folks with TB in the developing world. She is the co-founder of the Global Coalition of TB Activists which seeks to destigmatize as well as create space at the table for folks with TB when it comes to policies, healthcare as well as social norms. Listen in to Blessi’s story of journeying with folks with TB as well as why this is such an important issue in the developing world.

The Global Coalition of TB Activists have produced a series of books entitled Conversations of Resilience in the War Against TB, sharing stories of children, women and men with TB who have experienced stigma. Their stories can be read/downloaded here:

Childhood TB and Stigma

Women and Stigma

Men and Stigma

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Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E12 Blessi Kumar – Making Space for Folks with Tuberculosis in the Developing World

S1 E11 Everybody Now – Climate Emergency & Sacred Duty

We’ve caused a turning point in the Earth’s natural history. Everybody Now is a podcast about what it means to be human on the threshold of a global climate emergency, in a time of systemic injustice and runaway pandemics. Scientists, activists, farmers, poets, and theologians talk bravely and frankly about how our biosphere is changing, about grief and hope in an age of social collapse and mass extinction, and about taking action against all the odds.

On 19th October 2020, Everybody Now is being released by podcasters all over the world as a collective call for awareness, grief and loving action.

With contributions from:

Dr. Gail Bradbrook – scientist and co-founder of Extinction Rebellion
Prof. Kevin Anderson – Professor of Energy and Climate Change at the University of Manchester
Dámaris Albuquerque – works with agricultural communities in Nicaragua
Dr. Rowan Williams – theologian and poet, and a former Archbishop of Canterbury
Pádraig Ó Tuama – poet, theologian and conflict mediator
Rachel Mander – environmental activist with Hope for the Future
John Swales – priest and activist, and part of a community for marginalised people
Zena Kazeme – Persian-Iraqi poet who draws on her experiences as a former refugee to create poetry that explores themes of exile, home, war and heritage
Flo Brady – singer and theatre maker
Hannah Malcolm – Anglican ordinand, climate writer and organiser
Alastair McIntosh – writer, academic and land rights activist
David Benjamin Blower – musician, poet and podcaster

Permissions:

The song Happily by Flo Brady is used with permission.
The song The Soil, from We Really Existed and We Really Did This by David Benjamin Blower, used with permission.
The Poem The Tree of Knowledge by Pádraig Ó Tuama used with permission.
The Poem Atlas by Zena Kazeme used with permission.
The Poem What is Man? by Rowan Williams from the book The Other Mountain, used with permission from Carcanet Press.

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Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E11 Everybody Now – Climate Emergency & Sacred Duty

S1 E10 When Caring for Others Lead to Burnout… part II

Sometimes in doing good we find ourselves in situations where the environment is unpredictable, hostile, where the demands are overwhelming, and the social support is sorely lacking. When this happens, the joy of caring for our neighbors can become difficult. When we’re running on empty, it’s hard to continue to care for others when we find ourselves worn out. It’s not a personal failing or a flaw, it’s simply a matter of being human.

Join Ken & Rob in part II of their conversation as they share their experiences of burnout and how they dealt with it. In today’s episode, Rob concludes the conversation by sharing how he experienced burnout after finding himself journeying with the activist community that was highly unpredictable, at times hostile, the needs being overwhelming while under-supported by the church.

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Some Ideas on How to Handle Burnout

1. Practice tuning into your physical and emotional needs with respect.

In doing good, especially when we have a sense of mission or when the needs are great and overwhelming, it is so easy to suppress our feelings and keep on doing what we feel called to do. It takes time and practice to learn, listen and respect to what our bodies and emotions are telling us.

2. Be honest with how you feel and turn the compassion you have for others toward yourself.

It might be helpful to start by imagining what we would tell a friend or a partner if they were suffering, and speak to ourselves in the way we would speak to them.

3. Remind yourself that nurturers and caregivers need care too.

As folks who engage in doing good in our community, we need to remind ourselves that we can’t love our neighbors if we don’t take the time to love ourselves.

4. Take time to enjoy the things you enjoy.

It is important to take some time to rest and do things that bring you life – whether its music, sports, reading, films or hanging out with friends.

Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E10 When Caring for Others Lead to Burnout part II

S1 E9 When Caring for Others Lead to Burnout… part I

We’ve all been there. That feeling you get when you’re so overwhelmed, all you want to do is… nothing. That feeling has a technical name — burnout — and it occurs when we’re over-worked, overtired, and generally over it. Mission-driven leaders, who tend to be highly motivated, passionate, and over-committed, are even more at risk of burnout than the average person. They push their limits and exhaust themselves precisely because they care so much.

Join Ken & Rob in this two part candid conversation as they share their experiences of burnout and how they dealt with it. In today’s episode, Ken kicks off the conversation by sharing how burnout crept up on him in his journey with folks who live outdoors.

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Signs That You Might Be Experiencing Burnout

Emotional/mental/physical signs of exhaustion:

  • Low energy most days, fatigue that does not subside even after a night of sleep, dreading getting out of bed
  • Feeling more negative or pessimistic in both professional and personal life
  • Being more forgetful of appointments, responsibilities, events, or chores
  • Insomnia even when you’re physically exhausted or having fitful, restless sleep; not being able to fall asleep for hours; or waking up throughout the night.
  • Increase in illnesses due to a weakened immune system
  • Physical symptoms such as chest pain, muscle tension, stomach aches, headaches
    (If you experience any of these physical symptoms, get a medical check to rule out any other issues)
  • Anxiety – feeling so tense and worried that you feel impaired in your ability to do work
  • Depression – feelings of sadness, worthlessness, guilt or hopelessness

Depersonalization signs:

  • Wanting to isolate yourself from others
  • Avoidance of projects, people, responsibilities
  • Feeling disconnected from others and yourself, finding that you’re not as engaged as you used to be

Diminished effectiveness:

  • Lower productivity, undermined performance and despite your efforts feeling more behind
  • Sense of apathy or caring less about either the tasks, others or your performance
  • Feeling angry or irritable, frustrated with not being as effective

Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E9 When Caring for Others Lead to Burnout

S1 E8 Vivian Brocato – Loving Folks on the Fringes in Orange County California

In today’s conversation Ken and Rob are joined by Vivian Brocato from Orange County, California where she started and heads up Punx & Monx, a church for those on the fringes of society.

Listen in as Vivian shares her experiences of loving folks who live in the margins in O.C., and her passion for the arts. Vivian also discusses her commitment to the monastic lifestyle, cultivating silence, solitude, retreats as well as service to those impoverished in various mental, physical, spiritual and emotional ways.

The Rev. Vivian Brocato, MA, is an artist, devoted daughter, rad aunt,awesome sister, loyal friend and ordained Deacon in the Diocese of Churches for the Sake of Others. She received a Certificate in Spiritual Formation and Discipleship from George Fox Seminary, her Masters of Arts in Theology and Ministry from Fuller Seminary, and is currently in an Anglican Studies program at Northern Seminary. For nearly 15 years, Vivian has served a larger children’s mental health agency in Southern California in various roles.

For more information connect with her on Instagram at PunxAndMonx or
punxandmonx@gmail.com

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Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E8 Vivian Brocato – Loving Folks on the Fringes in Orange County California

S1 E7 Navigating Soft Entry Points

S1 E7 Navigating Soft Entry Points

As people who are endeavoring to do good, what does it mean to befriend others?

In today’s conversation Ken and Rob explore what it means to engage with folks on their terms rather than on our terms and why its important.

Ken and Rob also take some time to share their experiences of relating to punks, metalheads, folks without homes as well as anarchists and squatters on their terms and some things they have learned along the way.

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Rumors of Doing Good: S1 E7 Navigating Soft Entry Points